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I had been in a secret relationship with a coworker at my company, but it turned out that my boyfriend was a married man. When I found out he was married, I should have ended the relationship, but because I loved him so much, I could not do so. My boyfriend's wife says she is going to file a lawsuit against me as the female affair partner. What would the amount of consolation money be? I am worried.
consolation money for the female affair partner
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Author : Kuk Il KIM
Hello. This is a divorce attorney at Daeryun Law LLC.
Against the female affair partner, who is the spouse's counterpart in the infidelity, one can bring a 'claim for damages based on a tort,' and the amount of consolation money that the court then calculates is determined by comprehensively considering the specific circumstances of the case.
In many cases, the consolation money claimed against the female affair partner is determined in the range of 10 million won to 30 million won.
However, the amount of consolation money is determined by comprehensively considering the duration and degree of the infidelity, when the infidelity was discovered, how serious an infringement on the spouse's marital life resulted from the female affair partner's wrongful conduct, the degree of the mental suffering of the aggrieved spouse, and the parties' ages, occupations, and financial circumstances.
In particular, the fact that you continued the relationship even after knowing he was a married man may work against you in calculating the amount of consolation money.
However, if you can prove that the relationship did not last long, that you only recently learned he was a married man, that you actively cut off contact thereafter, or that you did not provide a decisive cause for the breakdown of the spouse's marriage, mitigation of the consolation money is also possible, so it is advisable to examine these points carefully.
It is also necessary to establish a strategy of reaching a settlement through negotiation with the other spouse by way of a settlement amount, or, where a lawsuit for consolation money has been filed, of defending yourself by sufficiently demonstrating grounds for mitigation to the court.
In such matters, it is important to organize the circumstances of the case and respond reasonably with the assistance of a divorce attorney, so rather than agonizing over it alone, we recommend that you seek a consultation.

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